According to a survey conducted in Japan a few years ago, half of the adults interviewed had very little contact between parents and children and parents were extremely lenient with their children. In the same country, about a quarter of those surveyed admitted that they did not know how to communicate well with children. This trend is not limited to the eastern countries. According to The Toronto Star, most Canadian parents also admit that they lack the skills to be good parents. One thing is clear from this that it is becoming difficult for parents in every region of the world to raise their children.
Psychologist Philippa Perry, in her book, The Book You Wish Your Parents Head Read, advises people to be good parents.
She explains how you can be a good parent so that your children can have a better start in life. At the same time, you should not try too hard for it. Here are some tips to help you become a better parent, says Philippa Perry.
Too much freedom is detrimental
Yes, most parents give their children too much freedom in pampering, so if someone tells them that it is necessary to set boundaries, it will be very difficult for many parents because we are all very close to our children. Love and at some point we cross the line. Even if you think that you are allowing your children to be a little too free, you should still set some limits. But how to make love? The answer is in 'I', not in 'you'.
You have to make your role clear, not your children's. So that means you have to say, 'I know you want to get away on the bus at night, but I'm not ready to let that happen right now.' Parents should not say, "No, you are only 13 years old, you are still very young." No one likes to be talked about like that. So explain yourself, not your children.
Children cannot be happy all the time
The basic and simple rule is that we accept every mood of our children but our mistake is that we want our children to be happy at all times. It's as if we love them so much we can never see them disappointed. That's why we tell them: "Don't be sad." But it is important that we allow them to have all kinds of moods while always being with them. We must accept all the emotions of the children so that the children do not get frustrated or angry anymore.
Children learn from you
In other words, it means that you are a reflection of your child, you are similar to your child. It would not be wrong to say that you are their human reflection. Our dealings with children become part of their personality. If we keep telling them, 'Look, you've got your shoes dirty!', They'll always see your angry face. It is important that you joke with them first and then mention the dirty shoes. You should always try to be happy to meet them.
Many ways children express themselves
If you think your child's behavior is lacking, remember this: Every behavior has a way of talking. Children want to tell you something with this kind of behavior and this is the best way for them to say it. So you should try to find out the real meaning of such behavior and then help them so that they can express what they are feeling without any hesitation. We have to accept all their emotions, of course we don't like them.
We should teach children to express their feelings and not worry about what we would do if we were in their place. Everyone is different.
Children have their own natural speed
"Your child is not an exercise to deal with quickly," says Philippe Perry. Nor is it a project that you complete in the best way. Your child is a person who is unique.
Children, young and old, are first and foremost human beings and every human being has his or her own natural pace of learning and personality traits, give him or her time.
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